If you are walking around with a pen and paper in your pocket, because you intend on getting several phone numbers and email addresses in one night, you are not smooth. You are a predator, and you’re taking the wrong advice from someone who thinks more about taking advantage of a situation than about meeting someone who might be worthwhile.
In my opinion, making the right impression is a matter of being comfortable with who you are and approaching with good intentions and a genuine desire to learn about someone new. Confidence plays a part but should never be feigned. Your belief as a man should stem from your security in the fact that you’re a good person with a lot to offer anyone.
Introduce yourself like a gentleman, like a real person. If you introduce yourself with an air of false confidence or arrogance, you’re going to come off more like a great white shark with only one thing on your mind. That beautiful woman is not conquest. She’s not a goal. She’s a person who might be the coolest person in the world if you get to know her.
If you’ve succeeded in having a good conversation, you’ve learned a few things about her. At this point, you should be getting a feeling for if she likes you (especially if you made her laugh), and equally importantly, if you genuinely want her beyond an initial physical attraction.
You can lend her a compliment. Tell her she has a great sense of humour. Tell her she’s brilliant. Tell her she has thoughtful perspectives, but whatever you tell her, mean it. Don’t say anything to flatter her. Make the flattery the by-product of being sincere.
If your instincts are telling you that you have a special connection with this person, and you are feeling particularly bold, tell her she has a beautiful smile or that she lights up a room when she laughs, but say it because you thought it first.
If she turns you down, be a man and take it like a gentleman.
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